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Leaders, Founders, Unity, Affiliations & Order
by Sanguinarius, et al
(This article was originally published on 7th August, 2002, but has been revised with new material added on 16 May, 2003.)
A notable community member (wishing to remain anonymous) wrote:
I would just like to give my opinion about "leaders and founders"
in this community and order, unity, etc.
AMEN TO THAT!!!!! The most common question that I am asked over here is, "By what merit do you run the A.V.C. [Australian Vampire Community]?" or "So you've 'made yourself' a leader..." and so on. The fact is that I do what I am doing because no-one else is and no-one seems to want to but someone has to. I freely admit that I'm probably not the best person to do it, but if I don't, who will? No-one. For the recordm, I try to avoid the term 'leader'. I prefer to think of myself as someone who's just there to help, as "leader" sounds like I am seeking authority or power and I'm not. I try to avoid that image as it makes people resistant to communing with us.
That's what the term "elder" is for. Although "leader" is also appropriate. "Leader" is NOT necessarily a political designation; it merely means those who lead, those who organize things, and give direction.
A good leader needs to strive to keep the community's best interests in mind, and even put the community's needs and concerns above his/her own. A good leader is a strong leader, but also someone who listens to his/her followers (which word is not a dirty word; nor does it necessarily imply "sheeple" or mindless herd-people). A good leader will also not place him or herself upon a pedestal, but will be there, amongst the others, listening, helping, supporting, etc. The others will naturally look to this individual for guidance, or leadership, and view him or her as a leader, and worthy of respect. A good leader will not let this respect that is given unto him or her, or his/her position in the community, go to his or her head. A good leader will periodically (sometimes on a daily basis, even) do a self-check to make sure his or her motives remain selfless and not self-serving. But, also keep in mind that helping others will also help themselves, and there is nothing wrong with that.
There are many of these types among us. There are many among us who wish to be viewed as leaders or elders. It's not an ego thing. To lead is to serve others. Sometimes this is done at great expense (financial, social, mental, physical, family, etc.), and it requires dedication, because sometimes it seems that no matter what you do, you can't do NOTHIN' right! A good leader knows when to listen to others and when to make his/her own decisions and stand up for what s/he believes in, rather than swaying in the wind, drifting with every difference of opinion, argument, belief, or suggestion.
"Leader" is not a dirty word, but it can be a dirty job, and thankless as hell. But a good, strong leader will remain dedicated and true. Because they genuinely care. And that drives them, even when anybody else would have given up, or buckled under various pressures.
A leader has the right to be proud, but remains humble. S/he is worthy of much respect, but demands none or little. A leader gives back to the community what the community gives to them, and more sometimes, in a form that is useful to the community.
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